Three degrees of communication

How do you make sure ideas don’t get lost in translation?

By Tyann Mullen
Contributing Writer

It is 6 o’clock and you’ve just finished getting ready for your date.

You sit down to watch some TV while you wait for him to arrive. You check the clock, see it’s 6:30, and figure he is just running a little late.

Seven o’clock comes and you start to worry, so you give him a call to see what the deal is.

He doesn’t answer. You don’t know whether to be worried or angry. You call again and nothing. At 8 o’clock your phone rings; it’s him. He tells you that he was at a movie with some friends but forgot to call and tell you.

By this time, you are pretty upset. If he had just called and asked to go out at 8 instead of 6, you would be fine. But instead, there was no communication and your night was ruined.

If you were to ask someone in the dating scene what qualities they are looking for in a potential significant other, their response would most likely be: honesty, loyalty, thoughtfulness or something along those lines.

The most important thing that should be established from the beginning of any relationship is good communication. You cannot expect to form a relationship with someone if there is a line of bad communication.

I have found three ways to maintain good communication.

First, be open about communicating. You should be able to talk openly about anything that is on your mind.

On the opposite end, you should be willing to listen to anything the other person has to say, even if you do not agree with it. Proverbs 12:15 says, “The way of a fool seems right to him, but a wise man listens to advice.”

Do not be your own judge. Listen and you will also be heard.

Second, be honest. I think honesty is often overlooked as a trait by itself. If you don’t communicate honestly with one another, you will eventually find yourself in a deeper hole then where you started.

Nothing can be solved if it is not honestly communicated.

The last is to be timely. Bringing up events that have caused you turmoil in the past is the wrong way to communicate anything to each other.

Focusing on the now will clear your head for the future and wipe out the toxins from the past. You cannot move forward if you are stuck in the past.


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